Sunday, February 26, 2012

My Perfect Man...maybe

Hey everybody! Hope your week was great! My week was very productive, for once.  I got all of my homework done during my breaks between classes. It was such a nice feeling having everything finished before the evening. You're probably wondering about the title of this post. Well a couple weeks ago at CRU, the pastor/leader said we should think about the qualities we're looking for in our husband/wife--not so much in the sense of physical appearance, but personality and character qualities instead.  I've never really thought through what I'm looking for in a person. So, I've started honestly thinking about the person with whom I'm going to spend the rest of my life.  I've come up with a few traits so far that I think are fundamental:

1. Believes that Jesus Christ is his Lord and Savior and is passionately pursuing Him.
2. Has a passion, drive, and motivation towards a career/life goal(s).
3. Is assertive. Tells me I'm being stupid when I need to hear it most.
4. Understands how to show me love. Accepts that I'm not very physically affectionate.
5. Has a great sense of humor.
6. Treats women with respect, no matter who they are.
7. Is patient. It will take an EXTREMELY patient man to be with me.
8. Is romantic. I try, but I'm not very romantic.

Those are just a few traits I've thought of so far.  This may turn into a multi-post series.  Being single is great because I have time to think about what God wants for me in all areas of my life.  I'm loving how He's showing me new things about myself every day.  He's molding me and shaping me into something beautiful.

As I'm closing this post, I'm reminded of something my mom told me after my last break-up.  She said, "You may not like being touched or holding hands or hugging; but when you find the right guy, you won't mind if they do (those things)."  My parents are such a great example of what a godly marriage should be. I thank the Lord every day for giving me great parents who live out Christ in all areas of their lives.  They're the greatest role models.

At their wedding and last year. Still so in love.

Have you guys ever considered what you're looking for in your husband/wife? What is your number 1 trait? 

Have a great week!
Love you guys,


Sunday, February 19, 2012

So much for consistent

Okay, so I'm not very consistent with blogging. What else is new?  I've been so busy these past few weeks with tests, meeting new people, work, and spending time with my friends.  But, it's the good kind of busy where I don't feel overwhelmed by the amount of stuff I have to do (at least, not yet). 

Anyways, I want to tell you guys about all the things God has been doing in my life. It's been so exciting! Recently, I've come to realize that I need some Christian friends to hold me accountable for my actions and point me in the right direction. So, two weeks ago I went to CRU (Campus Crusade for Christ) with a new friend.  I've really been interested in getting involved in a college-aged ministry and this was an awesome opportunity.  Since going to CRU that night, I have been overwhelmed by the outpouring of love and friendliness from so many girls.  Just this week, I met with four different girls and we shared our stories.  It's been so nice to open up about my faith. It feels like a rekindling of my fire for Christ and I'm so excited for it! 

In my friend group, I feel like my faith is stifled.  Maybe it's me, maybe it's the devil.  I feel like my friends might not be my friends anymore if I was on fire for Christ.  I'm afraid of sharing my faith because of what they'll think of me. I wish that the concern would go away, but it won't.  The sad truth is that my reliance on Christ is not stronger than my reliance on other people's opinions of me.  This is a weakness that I pray about constantly.  I want Christ's strength so that I can stand up to my friends and assert myself for once.  I tend to let myself not show "hurt feelings."  A little teasing jab here and there? Some vulgarity used as a joke or to tease? I just blow it off and pretend that it doesn't bother me.  I am not strong enough to stand up for myself and I want that to change. 

This week I'm praying for Christ's strength and love for me to be more than enough.  I'm praying that He'll fill me with a confidence in Him so strong that I have the strength to finally assert myself.  Philippians 4:13 "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." How simple, yet so comforting.

I hope that you guys have a great week and that the Lord works through you every day!